Only Certain People Can Fly

"Why can't you fly now, mother?"
"Because I am grown up, dearest. When people grow up they forget the way."
"Why do they forget the way?"
"Because they are no longer gay and innocent and heartless. It is only the gay and innocent and heartless who can fly."
~ J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan

Seriously, why can't we stay "gay and innocent and heartless" and why don't some children get the chance to be? Well, life happens. You get screwed over or betrayed for the first time. You realize that your parents can't fix everything. You find out that people are capable of terrible, horrible things that you wish you had never heard about in the first place. Terrible news is everywhere and I'm glad that we are aware of it. I don't want us to be ignorant of the things happening around us. So yea, it's impossible to be innocent. However, how about the great things you learn as you get older? Like who your real friends are and that you have people that love you.

As adults with our "realistic" thoughts, I feel that we defeat ourselves before we even start. We are never too old or too young to completely change ourselves and our lives. If I wanted to I can change who I am at this very moment, it's my choice. You can start over. I don't care who is around you or who remembers the way you were. If they can't get used to the new person they see before them, well then I guess those people will have to become your past too. You can make things better for yourself. If you don't think you can, then talk to someone who can give you strength. It will be difficult if you feel like you need to change, but sometimes the best decision is difficult to accomplish.

One of the benefits of getting older is making mistakes, right? So why don't we take advantage of that and fix our mistakes and our faults. I don't mean for this to sound like a cheesy motivational speech or anything even though I'm sure it does sound that way but in general people change over time anyway. My personality is the polar opposite of what it was in Junior High and I thank my lucky stars for that. I wouldn't have any friends right now if I was still a brat like back then. Then again, I still have some brattiness in me, but all I can do right now is strive to be a better person.

Porn and Disney Movies

From: Stuff No One Told Me

Isn't it true, we girls see "Prince Charming" through pretty much every movie that has even a hint of romance in it... then some of us wonder, "Where is my prince charming?" or even worse, "Why doesn't my boyfriend act like that?"

We all agree that the movies aren't realistic, but do we really realize just how much guys don't act like princes? That doesn't mean they're jerks but truthfully, I don't want to date a prince and I'm not dating a prince. That's completely okay with me. I don't want a sappy guy who pays for all our dates, opens every door for me, and texts/calls me every two minutes. It's inefficient and not sexy, at least in my eyes. I want a guy who doesn't mind confronting me on an issue, I want a guy that's not scared to discuss or even have a fight with me. Unfortunately, you don't see many guys like that on movies. Also, I never want a guy whose happiness is dependent on me. You see this all over movies but it's completely unhealthy. Yeah, my boyfriend can affect my happiness and I can affect his happiness but we are no where near dependent on each other. That is also, inefficient and unsexy.

And dudes, I know that most of you have watched porn and I know that there's more than a few girls on here that have watched it to. That's not the point, the point is don't expect your girlfriend or wife to just be a little sex kitten that will be up to do whatever you want to do. Many woman are not comfortable with what porn stars are comfortable with and they may never be. That is not saying that an open minded and more adventurous woman is a whore. That's not what I'm trying to express at all. I mean to say that by desiring the typical women in porn you will be disappointed because there are women out there who are fine without experimenting and if you already expect a woman to want to do all kinds of awesome/crazy things but she doesn't want to ... well, you're out of luck. Also, by wanting a typical porno star you may be asking for something you don't really want because if she is really an "insatiable whore" then she probably won't be satisfied with only you. She'll be out getting satisfied with your best friend instead and that won't do much for your ego.

Yea, there are some women who will do whatever in bed with you and only you. But there is an obvious difference between the porn stars usually seen in porn and your significant other. Don't treat her like a slut ... unless she's into that.